1. How do you see yourself as a catalyst for change?
I tell the truth. Sometimes, just that is enough—especially in the sex toy reviewing scene. People do crazy things when they’re sent free products! But I am not swayed. I write for my readers, not for the companies. I fight against misinformation, ignorance, and sugarcoating. I fight against toxic jelly toys and the idea that sex toys are threatening. I fight for pleasure and for folks to take control of their sexual happiness. It’s a small thing, to some people, but to me it’s an important thing.
2. Who or what was a catalyst for you?
Taking my first gender studies class in college. It was a whole new world. That was around the same time that I started reviewing sex toys, so my love for writing and sexuality converged perfectly. You better believe I wrote academic papers about sex toy usage and feminist porn.
Telling my parents about my field of work was also a turning point. I was terrified to do that. I had to get over my fear that everyone would be ashamed of me writing about sex. Now I leave dildos all around my apartment and my mom attends workshops with me.
3. What do you feel are some of the biggest challenges or concerns facing us in the field of sexuality right now?
Sadly, we are still fighting for the simple recognition that our work holds value. And we are continually lumped in with “obscene” and terrible things—just look at how Terms of Service statements on websites put adult content in the same sentence with violence. Facebook suspended my fan page once because there was a picture of sex toys on it, yet horrific misogynist pages aren’t taken down. We have some messed up priorities in this country.
4. Why do you feel it is important to bring this topic The Business of Blogging About Sex. to CatalystCon East?
There’s a lot that goes into sex blogging, at least if you take it seriously and hope to make some money from it. Our panel will be all about blogging with business sense. I’ll be talking about how to procure free products for review, join affiliate programs (and harness the power of affiliate links), accept paid banner ads, and use social media to your advantage. This is stuff that I wasn’t familiar with when I started blogging, so I’m excited to teach others what I’ve learned.
5. Share one unknown (or little known) fact about yourself.
I tried to start a food/fitness blog a few years back after I lost 100 pounds. That didn’t last.