Ruby Ryder is presenting The “Ass Panel”: The Ins and Outs of Anal Pleasure. Check out Ruby’s bio here.
How do you see yourself as a catalyst for change?
I am working hard to encourage more awareness, understanding and acceptance of a largely misunderstood sexual activity; pegging. My travels with this goal in mind have found me working towards more sex-positive attitudes everywhere as well as doing everything I can to basically encourage more communication in bed!
Who or what was a catalyst for you?
Dan Savage. I listened to a podcast where he was encouraging a young woman to embrace her kinks. He told her that there are plenty of websites out there for kinky people to find others with similar interests. He also told her that kinky interests don’t just go away, so it’s best to not only accept them, but embrace them and have some fun. It was like he was talking to me.
What do you feel are some of the biggest challenges or concerns facing us in the field of sexuality right now?
Well politically, we have the whole war on women thing happening and that seems like a constant battle lately. But what concerns me more is the inaccurate portrayal of sex trafficking, and the intentional widening of the definition to mislead the public about what is really happening. That and the basic problem of sex work being illegal – we need more progressive ideas and some creative changes there.
On a more personal level, I’d love to have a magic wand that enabled everyone to talk about sex freely and openly, without stigma or shame, whether that be with their partners or anyone, really. Because until that happens, many other sex-positive dominos will not fall. If we can’t even talk about the problems facing the field of sexuality because the general public finds it too uncomfortable, how are we to make any progress?
What do you feel are some of the most important/valuable positive changes that have been made in the world of sexuality in the past year?
Hands down the Supreme Court decision on DOMA and Prop 8. Until everyone is automatically granted the right to love and marry whomever they want all across the United States, we have more work to do. Those SCOTUS decisions were tremendous victories.
Why do you feel it is important to bring the topic of your session, The “Ass Panel”: The Ins and Outs of Anal Pleasure, to CatalystCon West?
I feel the topic of pegging and prostate pleasure is a much misunderstood sleeper in the world of sexuality. Not only are there health benefits, but the potential for reviving sexually stale partnerships, men discovering orgasms equivalent to women’s G-spot orgasms and a marked deepening of a couple’s intimacy is without compare.
Share one unknown (or little known) fact about yourself.
I live on a 12 acre horse ranch in the hills of Ventura, CA, and hear occasional distant whinnying all hours of the day and night.