How do you see yourself as a catalyst for change?
As a sex therapist, I help my clients to accept their sexualities and improve their sex lives. As a writer and speaker, I can reach a broader audience and plant some seeds of change farther and wider.
Who or what was a catalyst for you?
I am motivated both personally and professionally. Coming to New York City at the age of 20 and immediately gravitating to several underground nightlife scenes, I spent my young adulthood exploring my identity through sexual exploration. Sex for me is a source of creativity, energy, and connectedness. As a therapist, I work with people who are cut off from this potential due to internalized shame and/or social stigma. So my life’s work is to help people access these aspects of themselves to which they have been previously denied.
What do you feel are some of the biggest challenges or concerns facing us in the field of sexuality right now?
Human ignorance, fear of change, authoritarianism and dogma, the Christian Right.
What do you feel are some of the most important/valuable positive changes that have been made in the world of sexuality in the past year?
Obviously the repeal of DOMA, the legalization of same sex marriages in a bunch of states, the changes in the DSM-V which depathologize paraphilias.
Why do you feel it is important to bring the topic of your session, Sex Positive Therapy with Sexual Minorities , to CatalystCon West?
I’m speaking with my colleague Winston Wilde about sex-positive therapy with sexual minorities. That’s a pretty big umbrella, but I think the main point we will be making is that except for a small minority of problematic behaviors, the vast majority of sexual behavior is normal and healthy. Unfortunately, a lot of people are troubled by their sexualities for no good reason except for the negative crap that they learned, so a large chunk of my work as a therapist is to help people to depathologize and accept their sexualities as a unique aspect of themselves.
Share one unknown (or little known) fact about yourself.
I have some kink-related tattoos on various parts of my body, but you are going to have to find out for yourself exactly where.