How do you see yourself as a catalyst for change?
I have seen a lot of change in my 24 years in the business of sexuality. It’s awesome. But I keep my personal focus narrow. I live my life with as much sexual honesty and integrity as I can. Because I know my words, be it spoken or written, have the potential to stir change in the individuals I get the pleasure of meeting. In a nutshell, I am a role model.
Who or what was a catalyst for you?
People move me. Annie Sprinkle showed me how to be proud of my history a a sex worker and how to embrace a sense of humor around sexuality. Susie Bright continues to teach me how to consume and analyze the world around me. Cory Silverberg has taught me how to have a critical eye for my own work and others. Wendy O Williams taught me how to tell the world to fuck off when they judge me harshly. I could go on and on… I try to learn from anyone who is will to share with me.
What do you feel are some of the biggest challenges or concerns facing us in the field of sexuality right now?
I’d love to see more compassion and inclusiveness. Your mom has sex. Homeless people have sex. Poor people have the right to have children. Rich people face domestic and sexual violence. Skin color, gender and orientation do not define sexual attitudes or practices. Again… you got me started! I’d just like to see more warmth and open mindedness when it comes to this basic human experience.
Why do you feel it is important to bring the topic of your session, Toxic Toys, to CatalystCon East?
In an industry that is unregulated we need to create informed consumers who can in turn vote with their dollars. this will inspire manufacturers and distributors to create and market healthier products for everyone. Bloggers and sex educators are that the forefront of that movement.
Share one unknown (or little known) fact about yourself.
I play drums and often ponder the existence of bigfoot. I really hope he’s out there.