How do you see yourself as a catalyst for change?
I’m a bisexual swinger that trends towards poly and I like to draw communities together that usually snark and snipe at each other.
Who or what was a catalyst for you?
Discovering Dan Savage at a time when my marriage was at a low was incredibly influential. It was through him that I learned swinging was “still a thing” – without him, I likely would’ve been divorced years ago and still incredibly sexually repressed.
What do you feel are some of the biggest challenges or concerns facing us in the field of sexuality right now?
Infighting. I see so many positive communities throwing other positive communities under the bus without hesitation to appear “more normal” than “those people.” There are more of us perverts than the vanillas think, and the moment we actually band together, we can affect real change.
Snarky comments aside, lack of true sexual education is a very real threat to our health and well being as a country. The above paragraph happening will allow us to begin to hammer away at the repression and opposition of true sexual education.
What do you feel are some of the most important/valuable positive changes that have been made in the world of sexuality in the past year?
A week ago when a president said in his inaugural address that gays and lesbians are equal. That is a huge moment, and a rally cry for all of us at a time when things sometimes feel like they’re going backwards.
Why do you feel it is important to bring the topic of your session, Sex with Benefits: Progressive Swinging, to CatalystCon East?
I feel progressive swinging is very important because a nation of swingers hide by and large because they’re looked at as dirty hedonists spreading disease. Our thoughts on a new way to swing (and a way that a large number of swingers are already swinging) would allow for more openness and understanding, since we’re not so different.
Share one unknown (or little known) fact about yourself.
I am currently knitting my third Dr Who 4th Doctor scarf.